Friends or lack thereof...

My wife and I don't have any friends here and its starting to be felt. We don't have anyone who wants to hang hang out with us. Maybe there might be a few who do, but they already have circles of friends and family that we can't break into. All we ever do is spend time with the kids and that's all well and good, but not quite the same thing. The last time we got to hang out was on my birthday when we got a sitter to watch the kids and we went to dinner and because we spent too much time at the meal we skipped the movie and just wandered about town spending time together and that was much more fun that I've had doing most anything else in a long time. We didn't do anything - we just went to a bookstore and walked around. So other than each other, we havent met anyone who just wants to spend time with us doing absolutelty nothing without the need to schedule and plan something. Of course if its just us, we usually have the kids with us and then it isn't really hanging out - its keeping an eye on the kids and interacting with them and its not the same thing. Its damn frustrating. When friends do come over from out of town its just so relaxing to not have to do anything with them. Actually planning a reason to get together is tiring work and I'd rather just spend time being int he presence of people I like than having to feel forced to think of something to do.